Saturday, April 28, 2012

Winter to...April?

It's funny...I often find myself making a mental note to blog about the silliest things in life...but they all seem so important.
The first... of these is....those funny looks you get when driving to school. For real, what's peoples problems these days? Keep yo eyes on yo own ca. I guess it's worth mentioning the fact that we were driving in the pick-up...which happens to have a large snow plow attached to the front.
That's because it's winter. And in Iowa that usually means snow. This winter we haven't had a whole lot but my Daddy has to be ready for when it comes. He plows snow in the winter since you don't do a lot of trucking. Yep, my Daddy is an aggregate relocation technician....AKA he drives a dump truck =) 
Anywho...
Lately I've been struggling with loving everyone. Oh gosh...honesty time. Sometimes  a lot of the time I struggle with loving people when I think they're doing something wrong. They could be dear to my heart and soul and I could completely adore our time together but sometimes when I think I know a better way to do life I insist on telling them over and over what I think they should do. Honestly, I mean well. I want the best for people I love but sometimes I think that I know what's good for them better than God does. 
*sigh*
Wrong-o. God knows best. End of story. He may choose to use me to change the lives of the people around me but I do not act without His direction. Learning to love people through situations is one of my goals for 2012. And also learning to love people and get along with them even if they don't do things exactly like I do. 

Also...recently said trials have forced me to remind myself...
why do I believe what I believe? 

What has formed those beliefs? 
What do the people I trust think about them? 
What does God think about them?

Mainly I've been thinking about boy relationship beliefs. Where I stand and why I stand there.
Such as..why do I dress modestly? 
Because honestly...sometimes it would be so much easier to not care what I buy and how much little it covers. 

Well...how selfish. How stinking daggon selfish would that be to dress with excessive body parts sticking out? Women continually tell men to grow up and keep their eyes to themselves....as they sit there wearing shorts that literally only cover their butts and shirts that leave little to nothing for your imagination. We tell them to stop looking. If we want them to stop looking why are we giving them something to look at? Why, if it's hanging out is it not supposed to be looked at? If we think it's wrong for them to look at "it" why is "it" hanging out in front of the world and everybody?
Girls often wonder why boys act the way they do. Why they treat them like less than the ladies they are. Well, possibly one reason is because we don't dress like ladies anymore. We don't act like ladies. We're so caught up in being tough and thinking of quick come-backs we forget that a gentle and quiet spirit is what we're called to. {1 Peter 3:3-4}
Us ladies don't understand just how much our brothers struggle. A lot of them try desperately day after day to keep themselves pure. They try desperately to tear their eyes away from that girl with her short skirt. They think of their future wives and tell themselves "Don't look.". But it's not that simple. They're wired completely differently than we are. When they see a girl with so little clothes on their mind starts spinning out of control into crazy thoughts about girls. We honestly don't understand how hard it is for them to keep those thoughts in check with us girls walking around like we do. We can't understand that they need our help to keep them pure. Or rather we don't care. 
{From here on has been edited on April 28th, 2012, above text written during Winter months of 2011-2012}
Girls if we want pure and committed husbands it starts with us. It starts with what we walk out the door wearing. And it starts with us not being selfish. 
Because it's really up to us. Do we make excuses or do we decide to be the change? Do we decide to help our fellow brothers in Christ.
No more excuses such as 
"I want to dress modestly but I just can't find any clothes that cover me!" 
Girlfriend, I'm right there with you in your frustration, but honestly, it is very possible to find clothes that cover. Not easy, but rather, possible.

Modesty Tips and Suggestions
These are all things I live by, I don't  always follow them to the t, but nobody's perfect!
- As summer approaches it gets harder to be modest, but instead of just buying what is most available, namely shorts that literally cover your bum {isn't that what undies are for?}, get capris {which are also getting shorter} and roll them up or cut them off so they reach the bottom of your fingertips when on. These cover all your bum and are way more comfy that trying to deal with a weggie every time you move. For serious. Don't use the excuse that your arms are just really long, have your shorts hit mid thigh or a little below.
- Keep shorts loose so so you again don't have to worry about weggies just to look...cute?
- Shirts can be pretty easily made modest by adding a cami underneath. Just keep the crack and belly covered.
-  If a shirts straps aren't two fingers thick add a tank top or t-shirt underneath.
- To decide if a dress/skirt is too short, bend over. If you can see your bum in the mirror, it's too short. Add some leggings and roll with it.

Questions are loved and I'd love to hear what YOU do to stay modest!  
 I can promise you from experience that someday you're going to look back and ask yourself why on earth you were allowed out of the house in those awfully short shorts and low top. 
I've heard stories of young men/men expressing immense gratitude towards girls who dress modestly. They sincerely appreciate us helping them stay pure for God and their future wives.


And purity goes way beyond simply boys. It goes straight to and starts with God. We are pure only because He gives us His purity. Without Him we can't come close to what He asks of us. Purity is of the heart and mind, not simply the body. The body could maybe be called the outward expression of that inner purity.


I hope to soon write down some thoughts about purity and how it is so wrongly labeled to not having sex before marriage. 
What are your thoughts on modesty and purity?
love,
hannah dorothy

 

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